What not to say when someone tells you they have cancer....

Because I am feeling sassy tonight:-) I decided to blog about what not to say when someone tells you they have cancer.  I do feel that all people mean well and that sometimes what we say is not thought through. Also, when someone tells you they have cancer it is shocking so our best words are not always available.  So yes, as Grace being the theme throughout my journey I have given many people grace when it comes to the questions and statements I have heard in the last month.  So for future reference when someone tells you they have cancer they may appreciate if you could with hold the following:

.....Oh my gosh, I googled it.  Yeah, that one is bad . Long pause, simply because I am shocked you JUST said that!

.....What are you going to do now?  If you really knew me you wouldn't be asking me "what."  You would be asking me "when" is the celebration it's over party????

.....And the WORST thing you can say to someone who has just told you they have cancer:  "Are you ok with losing your hair?"  Because that's on the forefront of my mind!  AND, like who would be??? it's not a choice.  Rather mandatory for me to live and for a long time!  It's not the chemo that's the bad guy here it's the cancer...that's from Mandi's blog, she's 31 and winning her fight too.

.....Also, call it cancer, the "C" word reminds me of pretending to curse around my parents when I was a kid. There is no shame in having cancer it is how you fight it and who you fight it for.